HAVING FUN: REAL LIFE OR ONLINE?
by Julia Tanner
When you're looking for some swinging fun, real life seems to be the best way to do it. But if you're just starting off, or want to try something different, then you may want to consider the wonders of the Internet.
Nothing takes the place of skin to skin contact, but we're going to look at both to see what each can offer for you.
In Real Life
While even the thought of some physical contact can turn me on, swinging in person just can't be beat, in my opinion. There's something about the sights and smells of lust and pleasure that words can't describe.
But some new swingers feel it's a bit nerve-wracking to be personal so quickly, even though that is the point of it all--right?
Taking your time to get to know the other couple will help to assail any fears or insecurities that you have. Talk about things that aren't related to sex until you get more comfortable.
Then you may want to start a short conversation on fantasies until you're able to talk about anything. Being open and feeling trust for the other person is one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs.
When you're going it alone without your partner for the first time, make sure to talk about what is going to happen before you get into the bedroom/club/hotel. The greatest mood-killer is surprise at first, but after some time, it's the best mood-enhancer.
A little unknown is very hot.
Explore each other and give a lot of compliments, not only will you be swept up by the extreme beauty of yourself and the other person, but knowing that your partner is supportive will make your experience one to remember.
In my opinion, real is better, but online can also be exciting.
On The Web
But if you're just not ready for a little IRL (in real life) fun, then take out that laptop and let's see what we can do.
Many of the online swinger dating sites will give you the opportunity to talk to another couple via video. And because it's a little more anonymous, you might feel that this is the perfect arrangement until you know the other couple better.
With the video, you can see how you interact with each other, not to mention, get to see how the other couple looks to you. Look at their bodies and their body language--it speaks much louder than the two-dimensional profiles.
You may want to act out fantasies for the other couple to show them what you're looking for or they might want to see. Or do a little costume fun and fantasy at the holidays--be creative.
Not being able to touch is very erotic as well. The seduction of longing is powerful--even through a computer screen.
Sending pictures as well can be a way to express your sexuality through the computer screen. Keeping each other up to date and tantalized is an amazing amount of foreplay--really.
Whether you choose in person or online is up to you. Of course, one will definitely lead to the other. Click here for my own personal recommendation, which I can thoroughly recommend, based on price, reputation, quality of the interface, and the sheer number of other couples you can meet through it.
About the Author
Julia has written an amazing swingers minicourse . You can get it absolutely free at http://www.swingersvillage.net . Find out everything that you absolutely need to know if you are a swinger, or if you are considering swinging.